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Originally Posted by JustShakey
If they get kicked out he'll blame her and her situation will be worse:/
I know he's the aggressor because I can hear their fights (and I understand what's happening far too well), but not many others would see it because he acts so reasonable and nice while she is very quiet and withdrawn. If I make a police report about it at least someone would talk to her and ask if he's hurting her... At least she'd have a chance at some help... But I know the role far too well, she's probably more likely to defend him. I did the same myself, and in the face of much worse threats...
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Maybe try talking to her some when he's not around, not necessarily asking what's going on, but just to get a sense of how she's doing and that you're a person she could trust if she needed help? And maybe at some point, you could say something like, "I hear your H yelling a lot, are you OK?" Note that I'm suggesting this, but don't know if I'd be able to do it myself. You could try calling a domestic violence hotline to see what they'd suggest. It's good that you want to help.