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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:17 PM
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The stbx is back to swearing undying love... Stupid effing man is still trying to drag me in circles
No means no dammit! But of course at concept is behind him. The eight year old was asking why does dad keep trying to get back with you mommy? I told her he's a very slow learner. Not entirely true. I think he's more of a hopeless case honestly. This divorce can't be finalized soon enough...
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:25 PM
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In other news I'm debating whether I should call the cops on the neighbors. I hear him yelling and screaming at her just about every day, multiple times a day, and in the middle of the night, and her sobbing and crying and begging. He acts like such a nice guy, gets along with all the neighbors, everybody's friend, always wants to help... But that's the way those arseholes are. So charming on the outside, but a nightmare behind closed doors... She's a beautiful woman too, and very sweet. Far too good for him. She works as well, and he arses around all day... Damn but this sh^t is everywhere
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 11:12 PM
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 11:19 PM
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Considering cancelling T Tuesday. Just need a break after all this stuff with grandma. Kinda mad at T to be honest right now. Just dont want to deal with it.

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Old Jan 17, 2016, 11:45 PM
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In other news I'm debating whether I should call the cops on the neighbors. I hear him yelling and screaming at her just about every day, multiple times a day, and in the middle of the night, and her sobbing and crying and begging. He acts like such a nice guy, gets along with all the neighbors, everybody's friend, always wants to help... But that's the way those arseholes are. So charming on the outside, but a nightmare behind closed doors... She's a beautiful woman too, and very sweet. Far too good for him. She works as well, and he arses around all day... Damn but this sh^t is everywhere
Is it an apartment complex? They may be in violation of their lease. Ours says the QUIET enjoyment of the premises. We had a fighter couple down the hall one time, the mgmt kicked them right out. Maybe ask the apt mgr about it?
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 12:08 AM
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My adult dd and I had an argument on the phone. It started out a normal conversation abt her sons school, auto issues, etc. Every comment I made was met with a demeaning and argumentative tone. It's not new. Even grandson has observed, "You're her mother, why is she telling you what to do?"

I called her back and said the demeaning, argumentative comments have to stop, now!

She says she's tired, has a cold, and basically....she said- my parents (her grand parents) treated me(pre) this way since she was little (and they did) so it's not her fault...that 95% of the time these are the kinds of responses I should expect from her.

I'm done. She can disagree with me all she wants but she doesn't have to try to demean me in the process. I deserve respect. I'm not taking it anymore.

I'm still hurt, angry and depressed.
I feel self destructive..I don't know why...maybe because I'm so ANGRY.

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Old Jan 18, 2016, 12:10 AM
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I am watching the angie tribeca marathon on tbs. It is crude but funny.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 12:35 AM
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Is it an apartment complex? They may be in violation of their lease. Ours says the QUIET enjoyment of the premises. We had a fighter couple down the hall one time, the mgmt kicked them right out. Maybe ask the apt mgr about it?

If they get kicked out he'll blame her and her situation will be worse:/
I know he's the aggressor because I can hear their fights (and I understand what's happening far too well), but not many others would see it because he acts so reasonable and nice while she is very quiet and withdrawn. If I make a police report about it at least someone would talk to her and ask if he's hurting her... At least she'd have a chance at some help... But I know the role far too well, she's probably more likely to defend him. I did the same myself, and in the face of much worse threats...
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 11:32 AM
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If they get kicked out he'll blame her and her situation will be worse:/
I know he's the aggressor because I can hear their fights (and I understand what's happening far too well), but not many others would see it because he acts so reasonable and nice while she is very quiet and withdrawn. If I make a police report about it at least someone would talk to her and ask if he's hurting her... At least she'd have a chance at some help... But I know the role far too well, she's probably more likely to defend him. I did the same myself, and in the face of much worse threats...
Maybe try talking to her some when he's not around, not necessarily asking what's going on, but just to get a sense of how she's doing and that you're a person she could trust if she needed help? And maybe at some point, you could say something like, "I hear your H yelling a lot, are you OK?" Note that I'm suggesting this, but don't know if I'd be able to do it myself. You could try calling a domestic violence hotline to see what they'd suggest. It's good that you want to help.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 12:09 PM
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Recently painted living room probably not the best place to do construction. Trash can on top of kitchen chair makes a nice tall table to hold wood panels for primer. Crawling and squatting then standing are not fun on my knees.

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Old Jan 18, 2016, 01:09 PM
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You seem to have a harder time on weekends, when your time is unscheduled? During the week you have school. Can you schedule more outings or even online meetings or events for the weekends?
Thanks for trying to help. I'm not sure if that's the cause. This weekend was pretty busy, with people around to celebrate my sister's birthday. My sister is home on the weekends, and I try harder to act happy around her so as not to worry her.
Also, I need weekends to catch up on sleep and rest. I can barely manage the week - let alone if I'd actually have to do something in the weekends too (besides cooking, which I've been doing every weekend for the past couple of weeks. And studying, of course). Honestly, trying to add things to my weekend schedule sounds scary. I can't imagine how it would fit.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 01:12 PM
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I survived school today. Even took a test. I answered about half the questions, but that half went fairly well. Also received a couple of good grades. Didn't run out of the room screaming. Participated in lessons as best as I could. Went to physical therapy - explained what went wrong the last time, and asked for a couple of breaks throughout the treatment. I've been blessed with my physical therapist - she's very understanding.
Mum all but demanded I take another oxazepam once the second one of today had quit working. (I guess I was acting a bit concern-inducing) It helped to the point I'm less likely to bang my head against the wall, but I'm not actually feeling better. Mum had email contact with my pdoc today - he didn't say anything useful.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 01:14 PM
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My adult dd and I had an argument on the phone. It started out a normal conversation abt her sons school, auto issues, etc. Every comment I made was met with a demeaning and argumentative tone. It's not new. Even grandson has observed, "You're her mother, why is she telling you what to do?"

I called her back and said the demeaning, argumentative comments have to stop, now!

She says she's tired, has a cold, and basically....she said- my parents (her grand parents) treated me(pre) this way since she was little (and they did) so it's not her fault...that 95% of the time these are the kinds of responses I should expect from her.

I'm done. She can disagree with me all she wants but she doesn't have to try to demean me in the process. I deserve respect. I'm not taking it anymore.

I'm still hurt, angry and depressed.
I feel self destructive..I don't know why...maybe because I'm so ANGRY.
I'm sorry. It sounds like it's your good right to be angry.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 01:32 PM
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 01:58 PM
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Who ARE these unprofessional yahoos they just hired at work?! They are so loud and annoying in the breakroom and today are having a loud, snort-laughing conversation about using an unmentionable substance as body moisturizer. While I'm sitting here eating potato soup.

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Old Jan 18, 2016, 03:37 PM
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I am watching the angie tribeca marathon on tbs. It is crude but funny.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 04:20 PM
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Depends if you have the time and connections to start your own energy conglomerate?
Why don't I just lower the price of oil? There. Done.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 04:21 PM
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In other news I'm debating whether I should call the cops on the neighbors. I hear him yelling and screaming at her just about every day, multiple times a day, and in the middle of the night, and her sobbing and crying and begging. He acts like such a nice guy, gets along with all the neighbors, everybody's friend, always wants to help... But that's the way those arseholes are. So charming on the outside, but a nightmare behind closed doors... She's a beautiful woman too, and very sweet. Far too good for him. She works as well, and he arses around all day... Damn but this sh^t is everywhere
You would be justified in calling the police.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 06:55 PM
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 06:56 PM
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Why don't I just lower the price of oil? There. Done.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 07:02 PM
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 07:24 PM
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Don't let me complain about tonight's impending sleeplessness. I went to take a tiny rest, and woke up 4 hours later.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 08:32 PM
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 08:49 PM
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Glenn Frey isn't as of today. This is sad. I love the Eagles music.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 09:09 PM
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I finally took the Christmas tree down today. Now I have a sad looking dark empty corner that needs something...
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