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Originally Posted by TerriLynn
That is EXACTLY what I said, if she were dead, I wouldn't be able to address her personally about it, so does that mean I could never heal? He said that yes, there are other ways. But part of my problem IS allowing people to bully me, so I do need to find my "voice". I get that, but not with her, not now.
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Maybe you could find your voice with this therapist and refuse his idea. You could even tell him that is explicitly what you are doing, and that you expect him to respect you in this.
I have actually never heard of this idea before, but I think it sounds dangerous. Even the fact that your therapist is pushing you into it sounds disturbing - I regard it as an extremely important part of my recovery from traumatic experiences to be able to say no to my therapist, and have my therapist then listen to me and respect that. I can't see how him demanding that I do something I don't want to do would be anything but retraumatizing. And I can't see how a therapist would think that pressuring you to do things against your will is demonstrating anything but an unhealthy relationship dynamic. You know yourself best, and you have every right to say no.