Hi haier. Good for you, you are going out there with a relationship. I will dive right in . What feelings are you having to put aside? Why do you care that others bring up his ex if that is what they know? (You are with him now). If this bothers you, maybe you should find someone who has been alone a good long while. He is bound to have other more stressful things for you about him since he has two boys and it appears everyone knows and shares his business. Good luck