Hi KateSpade1 - I'm in a similar position. Ive been with my husband for nearly 6 years and 3 years ago I discovered his thong fetish. I have OCD myself which is hooked on infidelity and I had a hard time taking this in. He used to buy me thong presents when we first met, but after a while I had 200 and knew there was something 'different' going on. My OCD told me it was another woman due to the fact I knew many of the thongs in my drawer had been worn. We had to split up before he told me the truth and then one day I discovered him with all the paraphernalia. Including shoes, basque the lot. Its been very hard to take in. He told me he has had this fetish since he was 8 - he was involved in a sexual act with an older girl which involved panties. Since then he stole his sisters, mothers whoever's underwear to masturbate with. He has hidden it all his life until now. One part of me understands and supports what he has been through, the other part hates what he does. It makes me feel redundant and turns me off massively. There is a correlation between our sex life and this fetish, in that when the fetish is high we dont have sex much. The fetish also peaks and troughs according to his general mental state I have noticed. It can almost disappear altogether for months and then the parcels start arriving again and he 'disappears' mentally and emotionally. Ebay is a nightmare and sometimes he buys used ones which I just can't get my head around. Its just starting up again now and my old anxiety is rising accordingly. Rationally, it doesnt matter, emotionally it kind of does. To me anyway. I tolerate it, try not to hassle him about it, but deep down I feel very alone. I've had counselling, so I 'get it'. I just wish it wasn't part of our lives. I know it won't go away. It's great finding this forum. I need support.