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Originally Posted by Walkedthatroad
So, I have to disagree that in a "real world" relationship you at least have a chance for an honest answer. How many times have you stopped yourself from asking an intimate friend or good friend a question? For me, it was all the time. Even still. It's a learning process. I personally got what I consider to be honest answers from my therapist, because I learned how to not fear asking the questions. But of course, my therapy was a tad different than most.
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But in therapy is totally asymmetrical in terms of vulnerability, disclosure, honesty, and power. It's as of the T is hidden in partial shadow while the client is under a bright light. Often the client is exposing deeply personal and sometimes very painful and even shameful stories and feelings, while the T observes and interprets. Seems to me all sorts of questions are considered inappropriate to ask of a T, in a way that is not true in other relationships.