I have started threads. It is pointless here. There seems to be a high school mentality of in-groups and out-groups, which I don't get because we are all adults and besides I was so alienated, so poor, so alone in my youth that a high school model simply doesn't even make any sense to me. I was a straight A student, but had no money so worked at 14 just to make quarters for milk money for school lunches. I was told to move out or pay rent at 16 so left home, never to connect with family again.

I worked full time, sometimes homeless since my first true love committed suicide on his birthday, and I was blamed so kicked out of the group home, without any warning, nothing but a single picture of him.

I didn't know that much about therapy then. I was reading a lot of things that I have now seen referenced in the literature on therapy. I just needed to survive, eating Ramen and grapefruit for years, so underweight, working more than 5 jobs to make it through college.

I don't get why people are so mean-spirited. Some of us, regardless of background, color, ethinicity, age, sex, gender, sexual preferences, are still worthy of decent treatment, respect for differences. We already have it hard enough. Why post at a site that just makes things into an argument? How is that beneficial to anyone?

If I hear that people might be more open, maybe I'll risk posting again. But I think my time here has been totally wasted. I've been attacked when I'm being attacked literally so I don't even want to say how that feels.

Be nice, I'll be nice. Be honest, I'll be honest. Be appreciative, I'll be appreciative.

If you have "issues" please take them up privately not post them on a public thread. There are smart interesting people here, but I have to set limits to what is tolerable and what is not.