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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I agree but I wish it were safe with T. I let her see tears forming but they don't come down.
I don't think so because I don't cry with anyone and I don't have ET for everyone! Wondering if it's because I cried, probably, as a preemie, and in those days, they didn't hold babies in an incubator. I used to always have a fantasy that I'd run around the T's office, she would have to stop me physically, and I'd cry. She would be holding me. I didn't have that fantasy with current T. Maybe I can ask to hold her hand when I think I'm going to cry.
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Rainbow, I am a preemie too (born at 24 weeks in 1981), and my aunt recently sent me an article about how being born very premature has effects into adulthood. It is the magazine The New Scientist (Barnes and Noble has it right now), and it is an interesting article, though most of it I knew. Basically it said that for many preemies, they tend towards introversion (check!), anxiety (check!) and risk-aversiveness (check!). Like you, I wasn't held for the first month I don't think. I mean I was touched by nurses and stuff, but was too small to be held for a long time. When one of my T's first put out that my birth trauma might have a bigger impact on my life as an adult than I think, I got mad. It still makes me mad. This isn't something I can "fix," it just is a stupid unfortunate part of life, and certainly nothing I can remember and maybe get some catharsis on.
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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki
Rainbow, I doubt there is single day that I don't cry. To me, crying is simply an expression of an emotion. Sadness, happiness, frustration, depression, anger.
It no different, for me, than laughter or giggling. I emote, a lot, and tears come when they come. Simply an expression of a multitude of feelings.
Drives my daughter crazy LOL!
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OMG, if you were my mom i t would drive me crazy too! haha. I only cry when really depressed, or if my cat is sick.
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Originally Posted by kecanoe
Which book? Now I am intrigued,
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Me too! I love to read!!
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I think it is called Attachment in Psychotherapy by David Wallin.
Rainbow, I have skimmed it in the past, mostly what I thought fit me (anxious-avoidant).