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Originally Posted by Frankbtl
Hi ChavInAHat,
I'm sorry you had a tough session...........but I'd say, that ultimately..........she was still in the wrong for abusing you, you weren't/ aren't "in the wrong" for having autism 
Autism never justifies abuse, it wasn't your fault your mother was how she was.
And I'm betting that some of those traits were exaggerated because of some of her behaviour........and she's fully responsible for that too!!!
And why she did it........let's not be holding all the focus on you, hey??
She is responsible and her alone, the fault was in her, not in you
Alison |
Thank you for replying.
I get that ultimately she is in the wrong and I don't think it is my fault for being autistic, but it seems the only explanation as to why it was only me. Looking after a child with ASD is hard- but you are right, it doesn't justify it. Nothing ever will. I would never hurt my daughter for being autistic (she was diagnosed 2 years ago)
I did raise the point that I probably wouldn't have been able to look her in the eye if I wasn't autistic- because she hurt me and I was/am scared of her. (Even at 29, I saw her a few weeks ago and went into 'freeze' mode).
I think part of 'accepting' the past is working out why, to try to 'make sense of it'.
The 'why' thing has driven me crazy for so long.
I actually think it makes her more sick for doing it because I'm 'different' :-/
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