I've been to gyms, libraries, and coffee shops, but then what? What to say for example to get someone's attention without making fun of myself? Obviously flirting is not the door, as many stated so in their online profiles. I've tried on online dating sites to comment on things they say or show, and the responses were nil most of the time. So I'm thinking why in real life things would be different? I may be wrong.

It's ironic when I think about it: I get nervous of being rejected because of being nervous. Nervousness begets nervousness.