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Originally Posted by mf1438
May I ask what kind of hang-ups you're struggling with?
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2 hang-ups come to mind immediately.
1. When I was around the age of 6 or 7, I went to Catholic school. The nuns told us that we would go to hell if we masturbated. Believe it or not, in the early 50's, that's what the Catholic church taught.
2. Any thoughts about sex with anyone else other than your wife is cheating.
I'm going to counseling to deal with my hangups so I can get rid of the guilt feelings that come behind an orgasm.
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Ahhh of course! I didn't realize you were the author of that other thread about masturbation as a sin. I can certainly relate there -- I was told pretty much the same thing, by a fundamentalist Christian religion in the 90's, though I never believed or internalized it. I did feel the guilt and shame, though, so strongly -- until I decided what I believed for myself.
And I do understand how some people could view fantasizing about others as disrespectful to one's partner... But I don't personally agree, especially if your partner is the one telling you to use masturbation to fill a gap! Have you talked about your concerns with your wife? Have you discussed the possibility of porn usage or something else to arouse you? I'm a big proponent of total honesty in a relationship, I guess.
I really hope that your counseling helps! Take care, good sir.
