I don't recall the bible saying anything about masteration being a sin. I do recall the story of wasting seeds. But it didn't say u will spend an eternity in hell.

Masterbation does have a purpose. It is very useful in teaching a young man how to last longer, be faster, and how to recognize when he is ready to cum. That is necessary in order to avoid pregnancy. So it really is something that was created for a purpose.

God could have jsut let us have sex to procreate, but instead he gave us feeling and sensations in those areas so we can enjoy it. God made it so we could enjoy life. We enjoy good food, it taste good. We enjoy a sunset or a rainbow, God gave us eyes for that. We can smell the flowers, or the rain. We can feel a soft pillow or a kitten. We can hear the birds or a baby's first cries. And we can feel happiness or sadness.

We have been blessed with an sense, the sense of pleasure sexually. That has nothing to do with the other 5 senses which are made to keep us safe. Smell smoke, feel pain, see a car coming, hear thunder, food that has gone bad. This sense is for our own enjoyment. The sense that sexuality provides is for us to enjoy and share, and to bond us closer to one another. It can be something we find pleasure in alone, like reading a good book alone, or working in the garden alone, having sex alone is no different.

I have been told to think of it this way biologically. For women it is a little different, but for men sexual "fluids" build and build and they must be released. They either are released threw sex or thew masterbation. It is a biological need, not necessarily a sexual need. There are times when it can be a sexual need, but it is definitely a biological need. Like a soda pop bottle being filled to the max, it is going to overflow, and it has a lid put on it and it is not allowed to overflow and escape then it will not be good.

I sound similar to your wife. I really don't care that much for sex, my H and I have sex but not to the extent he would like. He takes care of his own needs when I would rather not take care of them for him. I have nothing wrong with that. It doesn't need to involve me for him to have release. It can, but it doesn't have to.