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Originally Posted by lolagrace
But you can set boundaries for yourself, including not subjecting yourself to distress at the hands of this teenager. You say, "I'm not in the position to have her visit right now. Perhaps she can spend some time with ______" and let that be the end of it. They can and will talk all they want, but unless you allow her to come, she won't be coming. You seem to be giving this girl and the rest of the family all the power to make this decision for you.
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Lately I've come to realise that I'm a door mat. My family manipulates me and I find it very hard to say no. It's like I have an obligation or responsibility to them that isn't reciprocated. I know I let it happen, after I left home I had the freedom I'd craved my whole life, but had no idea what to do with it so I've let my family take control of my life because I'm lost without the control.
I also don't want to see my niece hurting because my family doesn't care enough to have her stay the weekend. Im letting it get to me more because i dont have a session for two weeks, but you literally hit the nail on the head with me.