I've found that NA is better than aa. But if you are struggling that much a 30 day program or maybe a 90 day outpatient program. I think they decrease the amount of time as it progresses. Intense and daily the first month and then three times a week down to a weekly check in but it probably depends on the area you live and what's available.

I'm wondering if kicking out your be would help? He sound very unsupportive and triggering.