I'm not sure that there is such a thing as too slow... But then... It might depend a lot on the kind of relationship you are wanting to have with the person.

For me... I guess I'm wanting to have a relationship that is quite intimate. Some people are happy with less intimacy, but I'd like a relationship that is fairly intimate. I've been reading up on intimacy and relationships and sex lately... Has been a bit of an eye opener for me...

Sex does not = intimacy. I guess I knew it rationally / intellectually, but I still have trouble really understanding it, I think. I was reading some stuff on how sex CAN be about intimacy, but alternatively, sex can be about power and control themes. I think... Typically... It is about the latter. :-(

I guess that... I've wanted to slow things down (physically) with respect to my relationship and work on increasing intimacy instead. What do I mean by intimacy? Emotional connection, I guess. I want to be able to talk to him about things I'm worrying about or concerned about or happy about and recieve some soothing and sympathy. I want him to be able to talk to me about things he is worrying about or concerned about or happy about and be soothing and sympathetic to him. I want us to be able to take some pleasure in each others accomplishments and be able to enjoy the moment together. I want physical intimacy to be about that kind of a connection rather than a release kind of connection. The emotional connection takes time, I guess. I have all kinds of fears and stuff and I want to be able to talk to him about those and have him help me work on sorting them out. And vice versa. See if we are compatible as friends and partners and that is going to take time...

Dunno... I'm new to this stuff too.