Hi xx tpm-life xx

It's understandable you feel something might be missing in your life after the divorce, and may be missing the "presence" (whatever that was) of your father or of a father figure in your life.
And divorces can be tough on everyone involved
But not only that you've also, in a sense, lost your mom's ex who sounds like he was a biggish part of your life after the divorce.........??
But, I'm just wondering whether your mom could fill that gap just a little more??
Perhaps if you talked to her about the way you're feeling, your bond with her could be strengthened a bit..........and maybe some more "quality time" with just you and her doing things together?? Maybe it's a relationship that needs to change a little, now that the circumstances are different??
And not to trivialise the way you're feeling in any way.........but "family" can come in all sorts of forms..........maybe you could work on building stronger connections with friends, maybe there's a group you could join that matches in with your interests.........get more of that feeling of connection???
And maybe reflect a little more on what you feel you get from those male figures and see if you can find ways to generate those feelings more inside/for yourself e.g. if it's confidence you're getting how might you improve that yourself, if you feel it's caring you're getting.........do you feel you might need to work a little more on finding that in other places or work on your self esteem or self care, if it's stability you're getting then maybe think about how you might be able to find more of that in your life as it is??? Things like that...........
And maybe work on putting yourself first?? Your interests, your feelings, your dreams, your goals instead of so much focus on the guys stepping into your life???
Just some thoughts..........



Alison