My goodness, you just resumed the story of my life right there. lol I'm also a pursuer and past girlfriends broke up with me because I'm really proactive and I pushed them too much to their liking. I said ''we have this and this to do today'' and those things were really important but they wanted to go shopping, watch Netflix, it's okay to relax and live your passions to the maximum after all the biggest priorities of the day are done but seems like we didn't have the same sense of priorities. To me, if you play video games or watch Netflix after, you can really control your comsuption of those things. If you do them before, you risk losing control, spending much more time than wanted because leisure are a lot of fun and running out of time for the most important things in your life but they did not agree with me ...though they always whined of ''always being out of time for homeworks and everything''. I only had good intentions but my father tells me to be careful, sometimes I want things too much. I wanted one of my ex to lose a couple pounds because it was the best for her health but like my father said, you can bring a camel to the well but you can't force him to drink! LOL I guess it gets on some people nerve that I always look and try to do everything the optimal way but that's how I am, I'm really proactive and I must always have something to do. I got no time to be lazy and procrastinate. We can be lazy when we sleep!