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Originally Posted by Macd123
Okay so I'm sort of still going through a rough unrequited love situation. I needed to start with that before I told you that there is somebody else who seems interested in me. I know this because she comments on all my Facebook posts in a very positive way. This would be good if I thought we had a lot in common. First, judging from her posts, she is religious - I'm not. Second, she has a child which would be very difficult for me to deal with (I'm pretty needy). She seems like a real sweet girl and I don't want to disappoint her. I would love to have some attention right now to get my mind out if this swamp it's been in for months. My gut feeling is that I should leave it alone because on the surface it doesn't look like a good situation for me. I could sure use a good friend right now but I don't know if I could put her on any kind of pedestal while still being consumed by previous demons. Wow this is so ironic because strolling off into the sunset with someone is probably exactly what I need. Thanks
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first I have to say in summary that you might be right in not pursuing this right now... let me say why though to start. you're right in thinking that the "unrequited love" thing, if it's still affecting you is probably a good reason to not go for it. in addition, that you would love someone to give you attention to get your mind out of the "swamp" is the worst reason to try to hit it off and/or date someone. if the swamp is related to the unrequited love I would say it would be "rebounding" whether or not you are coming back from a break up or just someone you really liked and were rejected.
She's already giving you attention. it does not mean you have to go further with it to enjoy that attention. Being a friend to her as you have been, there is nothing wrong with that and it seems you're already enjoying the attention so just relax and enjoy that someone likes your company. Until such time as she presses you for a date or something, just let it be, as it is. I think that will be fine. Enjoying her attention right now does not obligate you to date her or make a move, if that's what you're worried about.