Owned my own home for 26 years and found myself with health issues that left me no longer able to care for my property as I had done before. For 2 years my youngest daughter had been asking me for 2 years to move to Texas with her husband and my thirteen year old granddaugter. Two other grandchildren that I was very close to were no longer living in the home. I was quite hesitant to make such a move as I feared a possible loss of my independence. This is so much more complicated than the way that I am writing this but hope to be able to explain as I receive either questions or responses from who ever may reply.

I sold my house, gave away to all my friends all my furniture tools etc., and packed up my 2 dogs and drove with my granddaughter a 3 day roadtrip to Texas.

I was not even greeted by my daughter and a couple of hours later when she did come downstairs I could immediately tell something was just not right. Evidently my granddaughter (daughter of my daughter in Texas) knew something wasn't right as she called me that evening to see if I was ok. I thought that quite strange. That evening my daughter started making bully statements to me which I did not understand. The second night she was actually in my face because I did not do what she had demanded the first night. The next morning she says "do you know what we were fighting about last night of which I said no and she further states neither do I" Again I was thrown off guard but still trying to not react until I could get a better handle on whatever was going on.

By late morning she had asked me did I have a good sexual relationship with her father (my first husband) and I said no. She had asked did he rape me. I had stated that was not a question I would answer to her. She kept on demanding and I mean demanding an answer (I did not recognize who this person was) and I finally answered "husbands cannot rape their wives". She started screaming the demand and I finally answered yes That was my only answer (which I know now that it was poor judgement on my part to answer her) She went berserk and stated that I had ruined her whole life because she was the result of that rape, that this would just define her for the rest of her whole life. I had asked for her to go to counciling with me so that we could understand this. That was an absolute no. To not make this any lengthier than it is I will end with her letting me know that she could not heal about this with me living there so I was going to have to leave. That evening I left with my dogs to a motel and two days later packed my car and moved back to town where I came from. I truly was in a state of shock. This has been almost 2 years now since we talked and instead of being hurt anymore I am now angry. If she called me right now I would let her know that I feel this would be a very toxic relationship and I prefer not to have that kind of a relationship. I am feeling guilty as a mom. My oldest daughter says that I am the mom so I have to be the bigger person and suck it up. Reactions please as this is something I am carrying everyday.