C'mon
Don't be that hard with yourself, you're just trying to know the right guy

Well, if you let me ask. Do you feel you actually pressured him?

It happened something similar with me, but i am the guy (and was the guy in the story too haha). Let me explain you my story as an example.

I saw a friend wich i had years without knoing a thing, and... i'm not gonna lie to you, i couldn't remember her name.

She gave me her number and then (thanks to god), she told me "Hi, i'm "insert name here"!

So... I kind of knew where she wanted to go. She started to "plan" and idealizing a lot of stuff with me!, for example, walking her dog, make her company, teaching her boxing, etc.

I knew she wanted something more than a friendship. She's a good girl and deserves better, but i'm not at the same "frequency" than her, so... I couldn't think of a way to take some distance.

I never had any sorts of problems with going out with friends. But when i did it with her, she took it as a date.
I never have tried to give her any expectations from me, like calling her friend everytime i could, telling her i didn't feel ready to a relationship, etc.
After that "sort of date", she basically offered me a friendship with benefits.

As a guy, i almost acceded. But i knew it couldn't end well, so i declined and that was the last time i knew about her.

Believe me, i feel bad, but i could've don a lot worse.

My point is, you DON'T feel like you pressured him?
It's not like they wouldn't love you, it may be that they don't wish to hurt you