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Old Apr 24, 2016, 10:26 PM
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Originally Posted by kecanoe View Post
I've got a couple of hugely compliant parts. They have served me well for many years. I also have the "what the heck is going on?" reaction from them-they really don't feel safe when I am not compliant. Boundaries scare them. And I have some parts that are adamant about boundaries. As they have both become aware of each other, I've had some pretty freaked out moments. And like you I try to stay looking normal.

I don't have anything helpful to add, except to say that I understand being in a bind-the feeling that I HAVE to be compliant and that I CAN'T be compliant. Ugh. It does seem to lessen as the parts are learning to be kind to one another and to try to understand each other.


Thank you!!

It would help me gather this up if I felt like I was in a safe place now.

Growing up in the environment I did and then marrying someone very similar to my father has made this very tricky to find my ground. It was not a pretty event that brought me to this place, and I'm trying to figure out the compliant for safety and boundary issues.

He is not abusive, physically, so far. It's just the changes that are going in inside of me that he doesn't like or want to listen to me talk about.

I'm triggered by things and I "go away" and he is triggered and explodes. Trying to know what to do. My counselor has suggested Alanon... For some reason it scares me.

I don't know. My head hurts.

Thank you again for understanding!!!
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