Kristen is there any way you can say you are going away for a vacation and do IP without your son knowing it? That would be one way around things. Otherwise you have to do what is the right thing. If it gets too much out of control you could in an incompacitated state endanger your grandchild. You have to take responsibility before something happens. I say that out of love, and you know the 12 and 12. I will pray for you to have the strength to do the right thing... blessings (((hugs)))