If you want to get out, get out & PROVE HER WRONG (if she really is?)

You are both using pointless bickering in your fighting with nothing of value really being said other than emotional verbiage being thrown back & forth.

If you have income to get yourself a place then maybe it's time you start standing on your own rather than sticking around. Maybe in reality she's trying to make your life so miserable that you will want to leave on your own. Many times people tell people they can't do something in hopes it makes them angry enough that they do it just to prove the person wrong.

You are right, you are both like oil & water to each other & it sounds like it's time for you to start becoming more independent. I think that's something you have issues with?

Why are you allowing your insecurities to control you & keep you in a place that you are so very miserable?

If you don't have income & you are just planning on moving in with friends who you think are going to support you.....that's not good either & that may be also what your mom is referring to that you would be doing to them exactly what you are doing to her by staying there & NOT getting out.