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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
I have been so darn...hysterical..over things in my life and thought that I couldn't possibly communicate any louder....could I? And then been told "I had no idea..." It makes me think that people don't want to hear me, or I really am not being clear. I still don't know.
I do think that (and men...don't take offense at this please) men don't listen the same way women do....like they wait until things are way past the danger level.....
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I obviously wont presume to speak for men in general, but IME and from direct feedback from the men I know...
They don't know what to do with the hysterics. Some do exactly what you want in that moment, hoping it will stop, but only in that moment. Some of them barely hear it, some even completely shut down and drown it out. So yes, you can scream at the top of your lungs and have it fall on deaf ears.
IME I get the best results when calm and coherent, bonus is, should they manage to listen actively, hysterics then fail to enter the picture completely.
To touch on the "past the danger level" point.... Again IME only,that's usually men who are complacent and have no fear of you walking out. They do absolutely nothing to help the situation unless it looks as if they might lose you. Then once the dust has settled, its back to normal.
Just my 2c