I posted this in the Borderline forum as well.

One of my biggest problems has always been relationship issues. Not friendships. Just when I fall in love with someone. I'm told I expect too much, I become clingy, and then they usually just stop talking and start shutting me out. This is what my ex told me. I've been trying to keep in touch with her and she just ignores me.

But I can't seem to let go, I constantly struggle with should I message her or let go. I usually go with the first option. Although last night, I sent her a message saying "It's become clear to me you don't want to talk to me, I will always be here for you and always love you." Kind of a goodbye. Of course, no response.

However, this morning I am feeling that push to send a message again. I don't understand why I do this to myself. I keep hoping for her to respond. Our relationship wasn't even that great. It was mostly one sided with me being the giver all the time and she just the taker yet never giving at all to me. Yet she would say she was giving me all of herself. I still don't see that now, but I still want to try. I still love her. I've always been a kind soul and one to never give up.

Point of this is, does anyone have any advice for me? I've tried everything, even when at work I just struggle with this all day unless I'm super busy.