I'm sorry if I've reminded you of a painful part of your life. What I wanted from PC was simply to find someone who had been through this from my side and come out okay. You know, from my perspective there's no good outcome. I was hoping someone would have been through this and found some meaning or happiness from it, like perhaps finding a new love for his or her spouse, or even a story of two people separating, making peace with it and both being happier in the end.

I'm really very sorry. I didn't know where else to turn. When you feel like you have an unsolvable problem, sometimes you just look for help in crazy places.

If separating from my wife is going to cause her the pain it's caused you, then I won't do it - no matter what. (And for the sake of clarity, I would never leave my child. She is part of my soul and I couldn't live without her.)

I do think it's interesting that you see infatuation as something for young people and that you never wanted to experience that connection again after settling into a more companionate relationship. I wish I could be like that.