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Originally Posted by Crocus
Thank you, QM. It makes me feel a little better to know that somebody reads what I write. Your T sounds like she was pretty well attuned to what you needed right then - did it work out all right in the end?
(I tried to talk to him about it on Thu, and then I texted him yesterday saying that I was feeling rather miserable about what I said. Not much else I can do about it I guess.)
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It worked out alright in the end for me. I essentially can text her though her boundary is she might not read and will never reply.
I was very doubtful at first. Kept asking "You didn't say no, but you're not saying Yes" until she said "Listen to me, I'm saying yes you can text."
Then I also asked if she would eventually resent "giving texting" to me and "taking it away", and she also said several times that "I will never give you something that I will resent giving. I will not take this away." and I kept asking if she was absolutely sure.
I also had one event where I thought she was taking away "reading QM's letters" and was really really upset and told her "You're taking things away" while crying (I don't usually cry so yep yikes!) so we talked and it turns out that I had wildly misunderstood and literally misheard what she said. She added on the reassurance "I will always read your letters.".
I really, really hope your T will be attuned to your needs. Every one deserves a good, caring, attuned T....you definitely deserve one!