During pregnancy I had to take extensive meds (several of them) and that was with a pdoc who specialized in fertility and pregnancy. I never thought she over medicated me. Her philosophy was I had to be alive and be able to function while pregnant. I know my situation is one of many but I was fine during my pregnancy. I did have to give up breast feeding due to my meds and I actually had to grieve that as I breast fed my other 2 children for a year or more. In the end it was okay, and I now have a happy, healthy 2 1/2 year old.

After my 3rd baby, I had my tubes tied at the suggestion of my pdoc and my husband who agreed with him. Looking back especially, I feel like I was bullied into it. Now my husband is leaving and if I ever do remarry, I won't be able to conceive (not that I would, I am just resentful that it is no longer my decision).

As far as your husband goes, I completely understand. My husband was sympathetic until he wasn't and when he wasn't, he turned into an asshole (and that's being nice). I agree that you should take your husband if you are able because he may learn somethings and be more understanding.