Hi, so I am a male and I got accepted for counseling in an organization here in my city a while ago and he just got back from paternity leave.

Today I went to see him and I wanted to do some desensitization but I was too afraid/embarassed because it involves a sexual incident in my adult life.

So I did talk a bit but I didn't feel anything.. it is just like saying it flatly but it didn't give me any relief or resolution of trauma.

So if I talk about my trauma in counselor's office won't help how do I cure myself of ptsd or c-ptsd. I thought that talking about your trauma in safe environment is supposed to desensitize you and move forward in life.

Then I explained to him how I wanted to do desensitization and explained how trauma happens when your mind/body blocks the trauma and you are caught in fight/flight forever until the trauma is resolved.

Is it bad that I had to show him how to do his job... although he agreed with me and supposedly agreed to do desensitization work next time but I explained it all.. so is that bad?

And my second question is how am I supposed to get rid of multiple traumas in my adult life if talking flatly about them doesn't help... I don't know how else to cure myself.