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Old Jun 02, 2016, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Artchic528 View Post
I so agree with this. Calling us complete strangers is kind of harsh.
What I have found is that there is something that happens in online relationships, and here is the thing I hope you understand I want you to be cautious of. Online you ONLY have text, voice (and sometimes video). Thing is in a connection made entirely online, you are limited to only communication, whether it is any of those forms it does not matter, there is no life interaction, in real physical space which is written off far too much. This real life meeting isn't EVERYTHING but it is important to get to know someone.

What I say and how I say it online may attract females but how I interact with them physically is likely vastly different and could be something that would turn them off entirely but without that, all they see is my intellect, which, mind you, is NOT a bad thing but alone, you only know that dimension of me.

I believe I can be intellectually interesting, funny and caring online, but.. IRL? I'm pretty disconnected, emotionally boring (or seemingly so a lot of the time) and quite introverted but that is very hidden online.

The part that catches people, including myself is, when you get to know someone inside first and only know that, it fools us into thinking we know them better than we really do, but are we only our thoughts and our emotions and inner ideals? No, as people, lovers and mates we are much more than that and frankly, in real life, the intellectually stimulating conversation (in like, daily life of marriage) it's probably only a small percentage of the time.

How we interact, take care of ourselves, our houses, shop, financially manage our lives etc... all will be best seen close up and will tell us if we truly mesh or not but without that it's best to be cautious.

I am not discouraging you from falling for anyone on line or even seeking people online but only as a warning. don't let the façade of "knowing enough" about the other person fool you into thinking its enough. It truly is very limited so just... be careful ok?
Thanks for this!
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