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She said yes and that she'd text me. She never did and when I asked she said she was sick,
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Rather than leave your entire day open, and thus leaving yourself vulnerable to feeling resentful, another option might be to do a followup text in a day or two, e.g. How about if we meet at 12 for lunch?".
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but photos of her on Facebook came up on my newsfeed the day we were supposed to get together and she looked just fine.
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She could have felt stalked and accused by your bringing this up.
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I was really hurt because she had agreed to meet up and I had blocked off the entire day for her.
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It was not her fault that you blocked off the entire day. As above, I think a followup text would be an idea to consider.
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I left that job the day after
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You quit the job because of this incident?
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and told her in a message how hurt I was.
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I expect that she was hurt too, and also angered, by what could feel like stalking to her, and by your accusing her of lying.
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That's when she said she had decided she didn't want to speak anymore. Whenever I express my feelings she ignores that too and only responds if I awknoledge her feelings.
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People do appreciate having their feelings being acknowledged, so it is good of you to do that.
My suggestion is to send a followup text in a day or so to ask about a specific time. If you don't hear back, just assume that the person can't do it anymore and move on without getting hurt about it or telling your feelings about it.
If it happens a few times with the same person, you can inquire with them about it. But in my opinion the inquiry should be one of nonjudgmental interest, such as "I've noticed that we have a lot of trouble getting together. Is there anything wrong between us?" The inquiry should not amount to an accusation, such as a statement of how hurt you are by the way she is behaving.