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Originally Posted by Bill3
Rather than leave your entire day open, and thus leaving yourself vulnerable to feeling resentful, another option might be to do a followup text in a day or two, e.g. How about if we meet at 12 for lunch?".
She could have felt stalked and accused by your bringing this up.
It was not her fault that you blocked off the entire day. As above, I think a followup text would be an idea to consider.
You quit the job because of this incident?
I expect that she was hurt too, and also angered, by what could feel like stalking to her, and by your accusing her of lying.
People do appreciate having their feelings being acknowledged, so it is good of you to do that.
My suggestion is to send a followup text in a day or so to ask about a specific time. If you don't hear back, just assume that the person can't do it anymore and move on without getting hurt about it or telling your feelings about it.
If it happens a few times with the same person, you can inquire with them about it. But in my opinion the inquiry should be one of nonjudgmental interest, such as "I've noticed that we have a lot of trouble getting together. Is there anything wrong between us?" The inquiry should not amount to an accusation, such as a statement of how hurt you are by the way she is behaving.
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I never told her about the photo. Even if I did, it showed up in MY news feed. We were friends on Fb. It's not like I was checking her profile constantly and keeping tabs on everything she was doing. I quit my job because she spread rumors and told the managers and everyone else about things I never did or said and they started treating me horribly. This fed my depression, and I have another job that pays more so it wasn't a big deal. But based on the way she responded I feel like she misses me, but doesn't want to get close again too fast and that's okay because I'd rather not do that either.