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Originally Posted by ElsaMars
Cut yourself some slack. People who requests transfers in your situation are bound to have some anxiety about it. It sounds like you really need this transfer so you have a lot of emotional baggage pertaining to it coming through. It sounds like it is mostly out of your control right now, and that is sometimes hard to accept. Continue doing your best. Keep your promise and wait a week before asking. If the time to ask comes up, don't be nervous, you are just following through on something important to you. That is a normal and healthy thing to do. I'm wishing you luck on the transfer. Keep us posted. (((Hugs)))
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Thank you so much, Elsa. I just needed to hear that. Very rational and very comforting. I rarely get that from anyone. Everyone wants to push me into the guessing game. What do you think is going on? What did that look mean? Why did he say this or that in a particular tone of voice? I dissect things and people seem to feel compelled to join in, rather than just say what you said, "It sounds like it is mostly out of your control right now..." EXACTLY!
After playing the guessing game with someone, especially my mom, after a little while I'm learning to say wait, stop!
It is the unknown!! 100% unknown. All this guessing and speculation just makes me mentally exhausted. But the waiting is also taking its toll.
I just went through a full 2-month ordeal of getting my resume perfected, I worked on it 6-hours a night for a week, wrote the perfect cover letter, applied for a job and got an interview. I believe I aced the interview, at least it was 100% me, then I got the rejection letter. It felt like, "Oh we know what we got was 100% the real you and, well, we don't want it."
My friend is an author and I asked what it feels like to work for years on a book and then get bad reviews and even criticize you personally? She was known for being pretty wild back in the 80's, people said she was on drugs but she's really just one of us
Anyway, on the topic of bad reviews, she said you never get used to them and you never get over them.