I've been with my husband for about five years, we've been married less than two. Something happened back in September that threw me for a loop and I am struggling to get back to some sort of baseline. Between Bipolar and BPD, I am allover the place. He tells me this is the worst he has ever seen me.

My husband isn't one to discuss feelings, or moods. He lacks a bit in the empathy department as well. I know that he cares for me and loves me, and I love him as well. That's not the issue. It's just when I'm in a state of panic, or my depression is all consuming, or some other emotion is heightened and distorted I would like for him to be able to reach out to me somehow. He always asks, "What can I do?". "How can I help you?" But I have no idea how to answer that. We then just sit there together. Me, a world of mess, and him, completely silent. It's awkward and sad.

How do your partners/significant others/friends/family members reach out to you? What do you find to be most comforting on your hard days? What is it that they "do", that somehow grounds you for a second? Anything is helpful. Thanks.