I make a point of telling my husband what I need from him. He can only work with what he knows.... although, as the years have gone on, he's been able to speak up and tell me I need to take my clonopin, or a sleeping pill, when I've ramped up to hypomania. It's experience plus specific information from me that has "trained" him in this way. Sometimes I just want him near me; other times I need something specific. I never expect him to read my mind... when I'm feeling that I want him to do that, I actually tell him that I wish he were a mindreader -- and sometimes he can then suggest something I can do to feel better.

When things are really bad, he goes with me to the pdoc and lends his support.