I just wanted him to kiss, touch, and initiate sex with me. That was the one deal-breaker I couldn't live with.

But, for example, someone on another thread said how they were thrown our of church, and I mentioned an incident that happened to me where my h did nothing and I was so hurt.

I was treated like crap, very obnoxiously and unjustly and was very upset and crying over it. From a religious institution, and to me that's especially a sore subject where my husband should have gotten involved. But he did nothing. He should have picked up the phone or gone in there and made sure I at least got an apology from somebody or had our family leave the membership. I feel like any other man would have done something. I even asked him to get involved, and he still wouldn't.

So, if he had the sexual thing down, and just was a totally lame duck in other areas, would that have caused me the distress that I had in this whole marriage? No. I think I would have been ok with being everything else.

It really was about the sex that made me not feel loved.