I wasn't symptomatic when I had my son. Which was good because it was very difficult. He was colicky and cried all the time and rarely slept. I don't really have any advice except just roll with it. Expect things to be difficult for awhile. And make sure you help your wife! My husband was too afraid of ****ing up the first couple of months and left everything to me. We had a huge fight about it which is when he told me his fears. Don't be afraid! You're not going to break your baby. Just do the best you can.

As for worrying about the baby, well, that just comes with the territory. If it gets really bad you can try cbt to help with the anxious thoughts.

Also, try not to worry about passing on BP to your child. There's nothing you can do about it. It will either happen or it won't, and at least if it does happen you have experience and know how to help.

Congratulations and good luck to you!