i dont usually comment on these threads but for some reason i have a strong urge to this time . rain i feel your T's response to your text can definitely be used as a learning experience. i know for me anger from someone else can be a terrifying experience. it meant abandonment and or violence. i have had T's angry at me and have expressed it to me . once i called my T at home late at night asking her to bail me out of jail. yup she was very angry at me and showed me this as well as seeing a person can be angry and upset at my behavior but not resort to abandonment or violence.in the end i saw the relationship could survive the anger and my T could be angry and still care . i never think it is ok to treat another person rudely .even a T. if a T allows this and a client thinks it is ok also then great it works for them .i tend to feel that T's are human and are allowed to act however they wish out of session and it is none of my busness.