I need some advice here please. My daughter is 22 years old. She moved over an hour away from me to live with a 29 year old guy who lives with his parents. She met this guy at college. She lives in the parents home rent free. She works and blows her money. He does not work. Instead he takes out a lot of college loans and then blows that money. According to my daughter the guy's parents have decided to sell the house and move to another state. So she found herself an apartment. Got approved. Told me the guy was not going to move in with her. Now today she said he was trying to get approved to live in the apartment with her. She is angry because the community college she is now going to did not offer her any loans. She only received grants to pay for her studies. Which I think is good because loans she would have to pay back. She works all the time but won't save her money. Now she is angry with me for suggesting that this guy should get a job and help her pay the required fees it takes to get into the apartment. According to her she was depending on the college loans to get into the apartment. Anytime I say anything about this guy she gets angry with me. She's been with this guy over a year and there has been many things she has told me complaining about him and his family. No matter what I say she flips the script on me and gets angry because I don't approve of how she is living or approve of this 29 year old guy who sits on his butt all day while she works double shifts. I am so sick of this emotional roller coaster she has me on. I have a lot of issues myself that I need to figure out. When is it okay to just step back and tell her that she is on her own and needs to figure things out? She won't listen to any reasoning I offer and refuses my offer to move back home and let me help her. So do I just wash my hands of the situation? Would that mean I'm giving up on my daughter? Our relationship is not healthy. Am I a bad mother for stepping back? Any thoughts or suggestions would be very much appreciated. Thanks so much for reading this very long post.