Standup2me and AlwaysHurting:

If you have someone in your life who sabotages you, I admit that is a challenge I am not familiar with, because there is never anyone in my life. But, if you can deal with that part, I can offer you some practical tips.

I can totally relate. 1 - I'm always alone, with no support, and 2 - I have been overweight and almost obese a portion of my adult years. I am now a fitness junkie who has learned about nutrition and exercise, and has gone through weight loss spurts of > 70 lbs. I would LOVE to give you some tips, if that is something you are open to.

- The battle to lose weight is mostly a psychological one. It is up to YOU to find a way to motivate yourself. Think - what incentives would get you to do this ? What is the end result you want ?

- Find exercises that you enjoy. Don't bother with exercises you find dull or boring, because you won't be able to keep them up.

- Base your diet around foods you enjoy. Some sacrifices will have to be made, but you don't have to make extreme changes you can't sustain. For instance, white rice -> brown rice, sugar -> Stevia, etc.

If you can tell me more about your specific goals, I would be more than happy to work out an exercise and/or meal plan for you, and even coach you psychologically. Please send me a private message, or I would be happy to share the tips on this thread.