My doctor has told me not to mention negative life events when I tell her how I am doing. I have gone through some more health care abuse and losses (deaths). And something that came out to be OK but would have been life altering if it had come true, but I didn't know for ages. And illnesses in the family.

She says this has nothing to do with mental illness. She means it is wrong to pathologize negative life events and they happen to everyone. That you cannot claim to have worse mental health because of those events. You just have normal life happening to you.

I understand that to a point. But then I am thinking this. If someone who is normally mentally healthy has a loss, they might have better abilities to get through it. It will hurt just as bad, but maybe they have some more resilience? Am I bad for thinking that? And thinking it can be harder to bounce back from normal negative events if you are mentally ill? I feel that is the case.

I have never claimed normal suffering is mental illness. Just that people who are already unstable might have a harder time handling things. Am I really that off thinking this?

My doctor says I cannot speak about anything than pure mental illness with her. Right now I am going through something that is one of the hardest things I had to do my entire life. Yet I have to show up at my doctor and be normal like it didn't affect my mental health. I guess I just have to fake my way through the appointment. She doesn't give me many so I guess it should be OK... She also does not tolerate me using my emergency med for life events. Just for suffering that only comes from inside. So yea, I will have to lie to her.

(And no, I cannot change doctors, this one at least prescribes my meds, my last one failed to do so, on purpose. And I cannot live without meds.)