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Originally Posted by runlola72
I'm not sure he wanted me to stop emailing. I did it because I was making myself crazy, and we talked about trying it for a week to see if it brought me relief or not. It hasn't, and I already messed up by emailing him this evening. I feel I have zero self control. He will likely not email me back, to see if I can try to go the rest of the week. I think he just wanted to help me be more comfortable, because I thought no contact might bring relief. But I'm even more of a head case now
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I hear you, I was in a similar place with emailing. I don't know what the answer is. Sorry you are struggling with this.
I think therapists ought to take a large share of the responsibility for kicking off this pattern. They say -- expose your most basic needs and fears, ok time's up, bottle all that up for a week. It's torture and I have to wonder when does the resulting dysregulation become traumatic or debilitating. And then if they treat is a problem and demand that it stop, or worse turn it into a teaching moment, man that is just wrong.