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Originally Posted by BudFox
Seems to me one ought to assess the risk associated with embarking on such a thing, beforehand. But how? Therapists usually disclose as little of their true self, their history, their methods as possible. Seems that candidates for the position of Mommy or Daddy v2.0 should be an open book and give a detailed accounting of their qualifications, personal history, neuroses, etc.
I can say from my own experience that never in my wildest dreams did I anticipate the level of dependency and regression that developed and how destructive it would be when it ended. Worst thing I've ever been thru. Sure, it was something else while it was happening, cuz I was lost in the fantasy.
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Some DO reveal a lot if info though.
Pretty much every increase in intimacy with my T has been matched by her sharing info I request.
I know about her childhood growing up with a severely disabled brother and how her parents choice to institutionalize him affected her
Her parents divorce, remarriage and the birth of her half siblings.
The ways she both did and did not fit in as a child/teen
Her sexual assault and how it led her to seek counseling
Her own experience in therapy
Her experience with body image issues
Her religious beliefs and reasons behind them
Her philosophy of therapy
Her journey with yoga
Her own divorce and her experience of having step children of her own
I know a lot about her which has certainly allowed this intimacy to develop over time.
They aren't all blank slates