I have no idea if it was intentional nor will I make any assumptions for something that would not have any kind of resolution. Was it selfish? maybe in the sense that he was not being mindful of your situation and level of stress that day due to quitting.

Keep in mind also you mentioned that you've been having trouble in your marriage, which does imply that there is tension already. To expect someone that it seems you know isn't exactly thoughtful or sensitive in the first place to go out of their way to care about your needs isn't exactly realistic. I would guess that more than anything he is acting in a way that you probably already expected. As such, is it really productive to ruminate about how he wasn't sensitive when it's really just probably him being how he's been for quite some time?

You probably already know the answer to the question of whether it was out of spite, him doing this. I feel like you're asking for people to "nod" and agree with you on how he is, which is understandable but the real question is what are you both doing to reconcile the marriage problems?