I'm new to the forum but have spent my fair share of time reading threads!

I'll try to make this as short as possible (Sorry if it does get too long!)

My boyfriend and I have been together for under a year, are under 20 and living together. I'm not too much of a cuddly lovey dovey girlfriend, love my Independence, doing things on my own and suffer from anxiety and depression. All of this which he knows. (This info is important later on).

It all started with the perfect movie-like scene. I was on a long vacation in another country, we met, everything was perfect, we dated for a couple months. He was kind, smart, reasonable, adventurous, full of goals and dreams, and a perfect gentleman. Then came the time where I had to leave and go back home, so we decided to go long distance until I could go back and visit. A couple months after coming home, he decided to come visit me. I was super excited, I really felt like I loved the guy! However... since the day he set foot here, things aren't the same.

He seems to be irritated constantly and for no reason, always blaming me. For example, my parents invited us to a resort in which the people who wanted to swim had to pay and the ones that just wanted to lounge around the pool didn't. He let me know he didn't want to swim so I promptly let my parents know not to pay for him, as he didn't want to join in (obvious decision since I didn't want my parents to waste any money). Yet he got angry at me. "You don't support me" is what he said, leaving me confused. Which followed by him telling my parents he was going to swim and then complaining the entire time.

Since then things have been horrible. I was acting like I always had with him, didn't work. He got a job so I decided to be more of a "housewife" and made all meals, picked up after him, even tried to be more "cuddly" than my true nature is, he said "You're trying to hard." I got a job as well, so I decided to ask him to be more helpful around the house, pick up his clothes from the ground, make his bed, make himself breakfast... he said "You're pushing me too hard to do things, If people tell me to do things I lose all interest in doing them." My final attempt, at which I find myself at a point where I have no idea what else to do, is to not tell him anything. If he leaves something out and it bothers me, I just pick it up. If he doesn't make the bed, I'll just do it myself. This plus work makes me very tired, makes me not want to be any form of affectionate and makes me very sad, it triggers my depression. And he says "You're being too distant with me, I want you to be more affectionate." Even though he well knows that I wasn't like this too much at the start.

Another thing, I'm not a fighter, I discuss. If there is a problem I resort to talking it out, viewing both sides of the argument, accept my mistakes and apologize and give reason if I actually did something wrong, which he hates. He claims this is me "making him feel stupid" and that he doesn't like taking to me. It's like he wants me to fight, go crazy and claim I'm right all the time. I do not understand this...

He claims he want to marry me and be with me for the rest of his life, that he wants to work so I won't have to. Yet he gets angry even though I've told him multiple times since the beginning that I'm too young to decide and that I need to go to college and figure out what I want to do with my life. He's planning everything in his life to the last detail, including me in all of it, not taking in mind my own plans. I like doing things on my own, I like experiencing things, and it seams that he either wants to do everything for me or not at all. He wants to hold me down from this point.

I feel like anything I tell him will just make him angry or sad, I feel guilty that he's here because of me and is not okay, even though I've tried everything, I feel like he wants me to fit into his future plans and give mine up, I feel like I'm the problem...

What am I doing wrong?