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Originally Posted by seesaw
Man, if all you want is to hear the answers that you want to hear anyway, then just have a conversation with yourself...You do this in all the threads you start...you ask a question, and when people respond and give you advice and suggestions, you tell us we're wrong or stupid or whatever.
I have had a few relationships off of dating sites, and I know what I"m talking about when it comes to photos and what people respond to. So no, I'm not wrong. What do you really have to lose by trying out people's suggestions anyways? It doesn't sound like your current approach is getting the guys you want. So even if it doesn't work, well what you're doing isn't working anyways, so you wouldn't be losing any ground.
I say this out of honesty and compassion to give you a new perspective. It seems to me that you just don't want to try anything because you're happy with your image of yourself as a "loser." Think about this...are you happy saying to others "I'm just ugly" and THAT'S your image of yourself?
"I want to prove to everyone here and elsewhere I can do this and make a living off it. But no one wants to hear it, let alone believe me."
Maybe no one wants to hear you because to-date all you've done is be pretty rude in response to people trying to help you.
I went through a period of my life where I didn't realize how my actions were painting a negative image of me. Some people were very kind to me and nudged me in the right direction to change my behavior. People here are giving you the same nudge. Take the hint.
Seesaw
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So you really think if I post a photo of myself, and 2 friends in it, that guys will talk to me more? I HIGHLY doubt that. I have seen YouTube videos on dating websites, and 1 video says DO NOT post photos of you with friends, do not post photos of you with a glass of wine or beer in your hand, or smoking because those will tell the people right off the bat, what type of person you are and it shows your a party person or just like to drink or smoke or this or that.
And again if I post a photo of me and my friends I know guys will think my friends are me and not look at me. It has happened before.
I know I am ugly and a loser ok. You all say so so it might as well be true!
I use to be happy and happy with myself but then the internet came across and ruined it for me and now I don't like being who I am. Because everyone else's comments about me being me, was so wrong and bad of me.
I want to feel attractive and have guys talk to me and no guys want to talk to me, no matter what I message them and that hurts. AGAIN all I ever hear from guys is "Are you a man?" "Are you transgender?"
You hearing that every single day of your life you wouldn't like yourself either.