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Originally Posted by starryprince
I'm not normally confrontational and I'm not trying to start an argument, but this is a little bit harsh for someone who is contemplating what I THINK they're contemplating.
Do you REALLY think that people who always take responsibility for their life end up in good situations and get ahead in life? That's an interesting statement to make that I disagree with 100%. You can do all the right things in life and still end up in bad situations. I see it in my Survivors of Incest Anonymous group. I see it with the clients I work with at my counseling externship. I basically see it everyday. So, again, I disagree with that.
I don't think the OP is trying to run away from responsibility. The problem seems to be that the OP's parents seem to favor their sibling and I also don't think it's fair that their sibling, who is very similar to their age, gets to live for free. We don't know the OP's story so we shouldn't be harsh. Everyone is fighting a battle, you know?
Sorry, I'm not normally one to respond to things such as this but this rubbed me the wrong way and I don't think it's what a person who's contemplating taking their own life needs to read.
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A twenty-three year old who is capable of going to college can and should be expected support him or herself.
If the parents favor the other sibling, that's too bad, but the OP needs to learn now that life isn't fair, and his/her boss will favor employees, he/she will probably favor one child or pet over another, etc., etc. The OP needs to stop making excuses like claiming he/she will become homeless over being asked to pay $100 a month in rent. If she/he would live on the street instead of paying that, he/she deserves it. And if he/she doesn't think $100 is fair, why doesn't the OP find a roommate and split the cost of an apartment. Depending on where he/she lives, they'd being doing good to find a room to rent for less than $400 a month. The OP needs to face reality when it comes to finances.
And if this offends you, I'm sorry. This is why so many people my age [baby boomer] are stuck with kids who refuse to grow up so we can't retire as our 30 year olds are utterly unable to fend for themselves. When I was 23, I was married, pregnant and buying my second home. My parents didn't give me squat, or if they did, I signed a promissory note and paid it back with interest. And no, my one child has been self-supporting since he was a teenager.