Very well said, and I have been going through the same issue where I attract manipulators and users.

I've been watching a lot of self-help videos related to understanding people with manipulative tendencies and how they target people (and what to do about it/the healing process). I am in the process of learning more about myself, the "warning signs," things I need to be aware of moving forward, etc. I'm learning just how easy it is to get sucked into the vicious cycle of getting involved with users, but I'm slowly working on ways to deal with the red flags early on to better protect myself and gain back a sense of self-worth.

Spastic Bliss, although unfortunately, manipulative people tend to seek out very giving and good hearted people, never believe you have to ever change all the good things that you have to offer, such as your kindness and helpful nature.

Working on where to draw the line though and teaching others what behaviors you will not put up with will help you feel more in control. Eliminating them from your life as soon as you see the warning signs can leave room for more positive relationships, which you will find with time. Hope this can help.