I have borderline pd and have come a long way through some dbt and a lot of mindfulness practice and education. I still struggle with rages. I am highly vulnerable to hurt feelings for the first couple of hours after I wake up. I find it difficult to maintain emotional regulation for more than 10 minutes. My husband is unwilling to hold onto his thoughts/criticisms until later time in the day as he feels it is important to express your emotions as they arise. I agree with him AND I am unable to provide him with my authentic self/wisemnd/balance due to my bpd. I have made tremendous strides in learning to control my behaviours. I am frustrated that he is being so unwilling to make a compromise that would save us a lot of pain, trauma, and suffering. It's up to me to behave. I would love any thoughts or insight to this situation. Creative alternatives are also welcome. Thank you, I'm not a bad person.