In all the animal kingdom, males always try to impress females (except in cases where males get pregnant and give birth like the sea horses, where the roles are reversed). Females don't have to be funny or confident for most males, for example. But males are preferred to be funny and confident by most females. So, yes, I understand the OP's point of view in this particular point (I disagree with him regarding his attitude about his brother, though). Males have a lot more pressure than females when it comes to dating. Once dating has started, I guess things will be more equal between the two parties, but before that males face more pressure to impress females and get into a relationship.